WHAT IS ANGER?
Anger engenders mixed emotions. It often leaves us feeling damaged or racked with guilt.
There is a view that to be emotionally literate means expressing a whole range of feelings,
but ANGER is potentially our most dangerous emotion and as its extreme, it can lead to death.
In my professional work with anger, I take the view that is a secondary emotion and that it
arises from a primary emotion such as fear or vulnerability. Fear or vulnerability may
be bound up with embarrassment, disappointment, injury, envy or loss.
All of these feelings represent a threat of some kind. We choose anger more often than not
to cover up this pain of vulnerability and look to blame and become hostile, even dangerously violent.
It is time we understood anger. It is time we considered other ways of responding to fears and threats.
CLIENT INFORMATION
Anger Reduction is Important for YOU
Many people come for help with anger. You may be having problems with your partner, children, friends, boss or work colleagues etc... In addition, your interactions with them may lead you to feel angry. Alternatively, you may simply feel angry while driving or thinking of past issues or crisis's. Of course, we all get annoyed and angry on occasions. However, frequent and intense anger is real problem. ANGER is toxic and it causes many more problems than it solves. Nevertheless, it is true that when you are angry people seem to listen to you and they may even do what you want - for a while. Therefore, it seems to pay off. However, the long term effects of anger are very negative and far outweigh any short term benefits.
Anger - Associated Problems
- Anger leads to conflicts with others it also may increase those conflicts that already exist.
- Anger leads others to view and evaluate you negatively and dislike you. This affects family, job advancement and social opportunities.
- Anger leads to avoidance and loneliness.
- Major medical problems. Long term studies show increases of health problems with angry people.
- Anger is associated with erratic driving and road rage.
- Anger leads to aversive verbal or physical assaults, often targeted at persons supposedly loved and respected.
- Anger may lead to property damage.
- Anger contributes to occupational dissatisfaction and problems with co-workers, lowered productivity and increased probability of job failure.
- Very strong anger can be highly disruptive and can cloud clear thinking. It can lead to altercations with the law. It can also cause you to believe that you need alcohol, illegal drugs and gamble or engage in other bad habits.
Does your anger place you at risk?
For more information contact Jim at
enquiries@angertherapy.co.uk
or call 07751 369 067
